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Okay so I know the reason you’re actually going through this post is that you’re either pondering if you’re in a toxic relationship, or you’re here to prove that your relationship isn’t toxic!!! Lol…. Either ways, I’m here to give you all the assurances you need to prove and to warn you of TOXIC relationships!!!
And oh, just so you know, this post applies to both genders not subjected to the females only. The “he” refers to both he and she….Yea right, we all guilty too π
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A lot of people fall in love with the wrong people at the wrong time and this sets a pace in their relationship as certain types of behavior starts to play in and affect their love life at the long run. The worst part is the fact that you have no idea that you’re actually in a toxic relationship and it’s draining your mental health and you need to take a break and just BREATHE!!! So let’s look at 5 glaring signs that shows that you’re in a red and it’s time to back out!!!
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1. HIGH INSECURITY LEVELS: Here, the insecurity levels are higghhhhh!!! Like you literally can’t be yourself apart from with your partner. You can’t go out with your friends unless your partner approves of it, and when he lets you go out, he’d be video calling you every time to be sure you’re still with your friends, he questions every thing you do and wants to know every one you’re talking to. he wants you to spend more time with him than with your family and friends…. And oh, just know that this list could go on and on because he never trusts you. And a healthy relationship should be built on trust and not some military rules and regulations π
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2. HIGH CONTROL LEVELS: Okay, so I know you want to be submitted and devoted to your partner and all, but if he’s so in control of every part of your life, then it’s time to set some boundaries love. Relationship shouldn’t be a prison hole you’re sentenced to for the rest of your life. It should be a safe space where you can literally be yourself because you know your partner loves you regardless of your flaws. When you can’t quit your stressful job because your partner cares much about the job than about you, you can’t eat your fav snacks because he thinks it has high calories and a bite could make you obese lol, you can’t watch your fav movies because he thinks the movie is old and his fav actor isn’t part of the movie castβ¦.Then darling, you need to know that he’s being controlling and he needs to STOP!!!
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3. EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE: Most lovers don’t know this is a toxic trait but it is and it actually is the worst. The fact that your partner knows your love language is gifting and then sends you money bouquet of flowers and Gucci bags just to make you change your mind and easily forgive him everytime he cheats on you, or he knows you love him so much you literally want to hear from him everyday so he chooses to ignore you for week whenever things don’t go his way in the relationship so as to punish you…lol…. This screams TOXIC on 7 different languages and Hun, I think it’s time to let him go
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4. MANIPULATIVE MUCH: I know you think literally almost everyone is quite manipulative in their relationship but I promise you, it’s not true. You can’t claim to love someone and you’re a pro in gaslighting them at every single chance you get into thinking that every cancelled or failed dinner or date is their fault, or the reason you didn’t text or call them back was their fault. It’s so wrong. A man who loves you would never manipulate you into doing things his way or saying sorry when you’re the victim and not the villain. If your man does any of these manipulative traits then you need to know that you’re in a toxic relationship and it’s either he changes or you let him go.
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5. YOU’RE NEVER ENOUGH: A relationship where you’re been treated like crap or trash is a toxic one. No one should ever make you feel like you’re not enough and they’re doing you a favor for dating you ππ€. If you constantly have to beg to be seen, heard and loved in a relationship, then you’re still clearly single and it’s time you make that official or he will. Men love women who are confident in their selves and know their worth. Do not ever lose your self in a relationship because of any man or woman.
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Like Lori Harvey will say “Always remember that YOU ARE THE PRICE”. This should set a pace in your relationship and how you should be treated and loved. And when you feel like it’s giving toxicity, then it’s time to set boundaries and let go of him. Remember, toxic people affects one’s lifestyle and mental health and you don’t want to be drained for the rest of your life.
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You deserve good loving, care, support, happiness and peace in your relationship and if that’s not what it’s giving, then you need to switch things up π
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Thanks for reading!!! I hope this helps and give you the right insight into love and relationship world. Subscribe, like and comment for more tips β€οΈ